When someone you love is struggling with their mental health, it can feel confusing and even overwhelming. You might not know what to say—or fear that you’ll say or do the wrong thing. But your support can still be incredibly valuable, even if you don’t have all the answers.

Here’s how to support a loved one through emotional and mental health challenges:

1. Start by Listening—Really Listening

Sometimes, what people need most is someone who will simply listen. Avoid the urge to fix things or offer unsolicited advice. Instead, create a safe environment that allows your friend to express their feelings.

• Adopt an open body posture: face them, maintain soft eye contact.

• You can say things like, “You can tell me anything,” or “Take your time, I’m here to   listen.”

• Avoid brushing them off with phrases like “It’s not that bad” or “Just cheer up.”

Remember, you don’t have to solve their problems—you just need to validate their experience.

2. Educate Yourself About Mental Health

You’ll be better equipped to respond with compassion and patience when you understand what your loved one may be going through. Mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, PTSD, and others can be complex.

• Read from trusted mental health organizations.

• Ask your loved one if they’re comfortable sharing what they’re experiencing.

• Respect that every individual’s experience is unique.

This understanding helps avoid confusion and reduces frustration for both of you.

3. Offer Practical Help—But Respect Boundaries

Mental health challenges can make daily tasks feel exhausting. Offer concrete, practical support:

• Accompany them to doctor or counseling appointments.

• Help with household chores like cooking, cleaning, or grocery shopping.

• Check in with a short message or call.

However, it’s important to respect their boundaries. Don’t take it personally if they decline help. Let them know you’re available when they’re ready.

4. Encourage Professional Support—Gently

While your support is invaluable, professional care plays a key role in recovery. Encourage your loved one to seek help, but avoid being forceful.

• Share information about counseling or therapy options.

• Offer to help research providers or go with them.

• Reinforce that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

5. Take Care of Yourself Too

Supporting someone with mental health issues can be emotionally taxing. It’s not only okay to take care of yourself—it’s necessary.

• Set realistic expectations about what you can provide.

• Seek support for yourself—friends, counselors, or support groups can help.

• Prioritize your own well-being and allow yourself time to rest.

When you’re supported and balanced, you’re in a better place to support others.

Mental health struggles can be deeply isolating, but your empathy and presence can make all the difference. You don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes, the best thing you can offer is your presence, your ear, and your unwavering support.

If you’d like to go a step further, many mental health organizations provide resources, hotlines, and guides to help both you and your loved one.